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Anger is a powerful emotion that often gets a bad rap. However, when channeled authentically, it can be a catalyst for growth and self-understanding.

Storytime

It was a sweltering summer afternoon, and the air conditioner in my small apartment was struggling to keep up. The fan whirred loudly, but it did little to cool the stifling heat. To make matters worse, my landlord had promised to fix the unit weeks ago, but still hadn't followed through. I'd called him multiple times, but his excuses were always the same: "I'll get to it next week."

Frustration bubbled up within me. I'd been sweating and uncomfortable for days. I felt ignored and disrespected. Anger began to simmer, threatening to boil over. I paced the cramped living room, muttering to myself. The thought of confronting my landlord filled me with dread, but I knew I couldn't let the situation continue.

Taking a deep breath, I decided to approach the situation calmly. I sat down at my desk and wrote a clear, concise email to my landlord. I explained how the heat was affecting my well-being and requested a specific timeline for the repair. I tried to avoid accusatory language, focusing instead on the facts and my needs.

After sending the email, I went for a walk to cool down and clear my head. As I strolled through the neighborhood park, I realized that my anger was a valid response to the situation. It was a signal that my needs were not being met. However, I also understood that lashing out or yelling wouldn't solve the problem. By expressing my concerns calmly and respectfully, I had taken a step towards finding a solution.

When I returned home, I received a reply from my landlord. He apologized for the delay and assured me he would have the repair done by the end of the week. While I was still frustrated, I felt a sense of relief. By acknowledging my anger and responding constructively, I had taken control of the situation.

Navigating Anger as Aligned Self

Understanding Anger

• A natural emotion: Anger is a normal human response to frustration, hurt, or injustice.
• A signal: It often signals a need for change or attention.
• A tool for growth: When understood and managed, anger can lead to personal growth and stronger relationships.

Authentic Anger Management

• Acknowledge your feelings: Don't suppress or ignore your anger.
• Identify the underlying emotions: Anger often masks other emotions like fear, sadness, or disappointment.
• Express yourself assertively: Communicate your needs and boundaries clearly and respectfully.
• Practice mindfulness: Pay attention to your thoughts and feelings without judgment.
• Seek support: Talk to a trusted friend, family member, or therapist.

Benefits of Authentic Anger Management

• Improved relationships: Authentic communication can strengthen bonds.
• Increased self-awareness: Understanding your anger can lead to greater self-understanding.
• Reduced stress: Managing anger effectively can alleviate stress and anxiety.
• Enhanced decision-making: A calm mind can make better choices.

Authentic anger management is about honoring your feelings while respecting others. It's a journey that requires patience and self-compassion.

Why Authenticity Matters

Authenticity is more than just being honest; it's about aligning your actions, thoughts, and feelings. When you embrace your true self, you:

• Build stronger connections: People are drawn to authenticity.
• Experience greater happiness: Living a genuine life is fulfilling.
• Increase your self-confidence: Knowing who you are empowers you.
• Inspire others: Your authenticity can encourage others to be themselves.

Tips for Embracing Your Authentic Self

• Self-discovery: Take time to understand your values, passions, and beliefs.
• Practice self-acceptance: Love yourself, flaws and all.
• Express yourself freely: Share your thoughts and feelings openly.
• Surround yourself with authentic people: Connect with those who support your true self.
• Don't be afraid to be different: Embrace your uniqueness.

It's okay to be who you are, even when experiencing anger. Your authenticity is a gift to the world.

Resources for Authentic Anger Management

Books:

• Mindfulness for Anger Management by Sharon Salzberg
• ​My Anger Journal by Brianna L. George​
• The Assertiveness Workbook by Martha Davis, Matthew McKay, and Elizabeth W. Fanning

Podcasts:

• ​Becoming Human AF Podcast​
• The Happiness Lab
• The School of Greatness

Websites and Blogs:

• Positive Psychology.com
• Psychology Today
• Tiny Buddha

Coaching & Therapy:

• ​Emotional Intelligence Nurse​
• ​Bold Living Coach​

Community and Support Groups:

• Meetup (search for local church or community groups related to anger management, mindfulness, or emotional intelligence)
• ​Virtual Small Group - FREE 6-week co-ed virtual small group to discuss authentic bold living (starting the second week in September)​

Authentic anger management is a journey, not a destination. Be patient with yourself, celebrate your progress, and seek support from others along the way.

BOLD LIVING CHALLENGE: What are your experiences with managing anger authentically? Write in a journal, or share with someone, an experience when you could have been more authentic with your Anger Management.

Need Extra Support?

Small Group support is an excellent way to meet other individuals looking to live a more bold and authentic life. My Fall Virtual Small Group opportunity might be the place for you! You can sign up for (or receive more info about the Fall Small Group) by clicking here.​

For 1:1 Coaching info with Brianna click here: 1:1 Coaching​

Until next week...

Be Bold! I see you.

-BLG

Brianna L. George

Boldly live out loud as your most authentic self.

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