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Resending: Enneagram Mind Games: Behind the Highlight Reel of the Enneagram 3
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The Perfectly Imperfect Pursuit to Know Yourself: Type 3 - The Achiever Welcome back, fellow Enneagram enthusiasts! We’ve journeyed through the perfectionistic realm of the Type 1 and the nurturing heart of the Type 2. Now, prepare to be dazzled by the sheer force of ambition and charisma as we explore a bit about my own world as a 3w2; the Achiever, the Performer, the ever-so-impressive Type 3. Get ready for a dose of motivation, a sprinkle of truth, and maybe a gentle reminder that your worth isn’t tied to your LinkedIn profile. If you aren't sure which type you are, you can take a test here: ✨ Paid version ($20): www.enneagraminstitute.com If you already KNOW your Enneagram type, I'd LOVE to hear from you as we go through this series. I am a type 3, but more accurately a 3Wing2. (If you have no idea what that means, it's ok. There are opportunities to learn if you want. Hit me up in this email, or click the link, to schedule a FREE Clarity Call.) Issue 3: The Achiever's Hustle (And the Fear of Being "Unsuccessful") - Enneagram Type 3: "Look at Me Shine! (Please?)" Ah, the Enneagram 3. We are the embodiment of success, the master of presentation, the one who always seems to have it all together. Type 3's are the go-getters, the deal-closers, the people everyone admires. But the truth is, beneath that polished exterior, there's a deep, often unspoken, fear of being seen as (and becoming) a failure. The People-Pleasing Paradox: The Currency of Achievement Type 3s, we are the champions of external validation and our sense of self-worth is often tied to our accomplishments and how others perceive us. We strive for success, not just for personal satisfaction, but also for the admiration and approval that comes with it. Why? Because let’s be honest, we need to feel valued and respected. And in a world that often equates success with worth, it’s easy to fall into the trap of believing value lies solely in our achievements. (This is especially compounding if your parent was also a 3. Ask me how I know.🤭) The Sassy Truth: Our Worth Isn't our Resume Look, I get it. We're driven, and ambitious; we know how to get things done. People rely on us -- But sometimes, we need to ask ourselves, "Am I chasing success for myself, or for the applause?" And let's face it, sometimes we're so busy trying to impress everyone else, we can easily forget who we really are inside, not on the outside. Here's the hard truth: our worth is not defined by our job titles, bank accounts, or the number of likes on an Instagram post. And no, our happiness isn't contingent on climbing the corporate ladder or achieving that elusive "perfect" life. The Wisdom Drop: Beyond the Facade Success is not the only measure of worth. True success is about authenticity and being authentic, living a life that aligns with our values. Repeat this until it sinks in, honey-child. Failure is a part of the journey. It's how we learn and grow. Embrace it, don't fear it. Authenticity is more attractive than any facade. Be yourself, even if it means being vulnerable. People connect with realness, not perfection. Rest is productive. We can't perform at our best if we're constantly running on empty. Schedule downtime, and actually use it. True connection isn't built on accomplishments. It's built on vulnerability and shared experiences. The Call to Action (For Type 3s and Everyone Else): Type 3s: Practice being authentic. Learn to value yourself for who you are, not just what you do. And for the love of all that is shiny, stop comparing yourself to everyone else's highlight reel. Everyone else: Appreciate the Type 3s in your life. But also, remind them that their worth isn’t tied to their achievements. Give them space to be vulnerable, and appreciate the person behind the persona. Remember, Type 3s, we are more than our accomplishments. We are whole, complex, and wonderful human beings. And yes, we deserve to be celebrated- But true celebration starts with self-acceptance. So, go ahead, take a moment to BOLDLY appreciate yourself, just as you are. And if you need a standing ovation, well, maybe give yourself one. You’ve earned it. Stay tuned for next week's issue, where we'll delve into the introspective world of the Individualist, Enneagram Type 4. Until then, keep shining, but remember to take off the mask every now and then. And maybe, just maybe, take a day off. You deserve it. The Power to Shine: My Discovery of Unapologetic Ambition I'm a Three with a Two wing, which translates to: I'm a walking, talking, perfectly manicured brand, obsessed with success and deeply afraid of being perceived as selfish. For years, I was a master at projecting an image of effortless perfection, a life curated for consumption. But behind the scenes, my ambition for anything for myself (other than my kids, marriage, and volunteer efforts,) was quietly suffocating, buried beneath layers of guilt and the fear of being labeled "prideful." I felt like I couldn't pursue anything actually FOR me without someone saying I was too ambitious -- and ambition was labeled as bad. Growing up, I was the golden child, the one expected to excel. But my parents wanted it their way. They wanted to control my life and frankly, lived their shattered ambitions through my successes. Yet, every time I showed a hint of ambition (outside their allowed parameters), I was met with "You are so rebellious" or "Don't get too big for your britches." As a young adult, I found myself within a community that saw ambition and someone who wanted success for themselves, as prideful (which was a disqualifier), unless it was for their marriage, family, or the community. So, I learned to downplay my desire for success outside those things, to deflect any praise, and to bury my true dreams beneath a mountain of "How can I help others and be humble?" This pattern has continued throughout my adult life. I built a beautiful narrative about my life (that I began to believe and live from) that being small was good and applauded. That being in the shadows was more holy, and you should never-ever want the spotlight. My relationships were a similar story. I was the supportive partner, the selfless friend, always putting others first, afraid to shine too bright. My life was a carefully constructed masterpiece, but it lacked any personal… sparkle. The turning point came when I hit burnout after serving for years, checking on everyone else for years, supporting a partner and all his endeavors for years with no return for me to have the same. I remember lying awake, staring at the ceiling, the weight of unspoken dreams pressing down on me. I realized that in my quest to be "liked," I had become a chameleon, constantly adapting to please others, losing sight of my own vibrant colors. And then, it hit me: I was a life coach. I have helped others uncover their passions, set goals, and achieve their dreams in both formal and informal capacities for over 15 years (for free.) But what about my own dreams? Was I too afraid to practice what I preached? After that revelation, I started making decisions for myself with a renewed sense of purpose. I started small, subtly shifting my focus. I began to share my own successes, not for bragging rights, but to inspire others. I started setting boundaries and saying "no" to requests that drained my energy. I started living a life that reflected my true desires, not just the image I thought others expected. It wasn't easy. It still isn't easy. I lost my entire community. I ended my broken marriage. People around me didn't like the changes. They didn't like me showing up as my gloriously flawed and ambitious self and not the person they needed me to be; small, hidden, quiet, and obedient. Old habits died hard. I find myself sometimes still trying to please people, but with each small step I continue to take, I feel a sense of liberation I never knew existed. I am finally allowing myself to shine, to be seen, to be heard. And guess what? The RIGHT people aren't repelled by my ambition; they are inspired by it. Now, I help others do the same in a professional capacity. I help them uncover their hidden desires, break free from the shackles of self-doubt, heal from emotional trauma, and embrace their inner Three – the ambitious, driven, and yes, even a little bit fabulous version of themselves. And as I watch my clients blossom, I realize that my own journey of self-discovery has been the most rewarding of all. Bold Challenge Questions Time to turn up the heat and challenge my fellow Enneagram 3's to face their relationship with external approval: Is your 'authenticity' a carefully crafted performance designed to win approval? How much of your 'self' is a carefully curated image? When you fail, do you fear the failure itself, or the judgment of others? Which is more terrifying? If no one was watching, would you still pursue the same goals? Or are you living for an audience? When you feel insecure, is it because you doubt your abilities, or because you fear losing your 'successful' persona? Can you distinguish between genuine self-confidence and the need to project an image of confidence? Let's turn the spotlight on those who love and care for the ever-ambitious Enneagram Type 3: When your Type 3 loved one is celebrating success, are you genuinely happy for them, or do you feel a twinge of envy or insecurity? Do you distinguish between their outward persona and their inner vulnerabilities? How can you create a safe space for them to be authentic? How do you communicate your own needs and feelings without feeling intimidated by their drive and ambition? How do you encourage them to prioritize their well-being and relationships over their achievements? What are you learning about yourself and your own relationship patterns through your connection with a Type 3? Craving More Challenge? Subscribe to my YouTube channel and dare to watch "Boldly Driven Conversations with Bri" episode(s.) I don't have a new episode this week, but I do have an episode of a Podcast where I was a guest that dropped this week I want to share with you. Go give some love to my friends over at Becoming Human AF Podcast. During this episode, I get to discuss:
It's almost Spring! Are you ready to stop playing small and actually do something good for yourself? Ready to finally heal your emotional baggage? Snag one of my Emotional Healing journals on Amazon and let's get to work. Your favorite self is waiting for you to discover them! Ready to ditch the struggle and unleash your inner badass? If you're craving personalized support and ready to level up your life, let's chat. Click here for 1:1 coaching info. Click here to schedule a Bold Beginning Chat with Brianna: Bold Beginning Chat Let's make some magic happen. ✨ 🎁Exclusive Subscriber Giveaway🎁Alright, listen up, buttercups! Feeling lost in the labyrinth of life? Tired of nodding along to everyone else's agenda? Need some clarity on something going on in your life or even what we discussed above? Simply forward this newsletter to a friend you know would benefit, have them subscribe, and you reply to this email with their name and email. ( So I know who to thank for the new subscriber and who to schedule the call with.) Be Boldly You! I see you, Gorgeous. -Bri💋 Brianna L. George Boldly live out loud as your authentic self.💋 Clarksville, TN 37040 |
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You get one life, so you might as well make it count. My weekly newsletter, "Unveiled & Revealed with Bri," is your go-to guide for ditching the need for external approval, and how to embrace your most authentic self. Get ready for emotional-healing practices, tips, and challenges that will inspire you to live out loud. Let's rewrite your story together, shall we?